Monday, September 28, 2009

On secularisation of marriage in the church.

i recall when i was younger reading demographics stating that the average marriage age was 27 and 25 years old for men and women respectively*. In the years since, these values have incremented to 28 and 27. These values follow our current culture view on how we should go about our lives. Ideally, one will attend college for a 4 year degree before settling down and then dating around.

This view, however, conflicts with a Christian world view. i make an argument in regards to sex. Those that wait until their late twenties to marry obviously don't wait until then to become sexually active. Most will be active in their teen years, if not by their first years in college. Moreso, this secular stance gives little reason to marry. Why would one marry into responsibility when all that is good is available without?

As Christians, why would we deny our sexual needs by waiting until the cultural norm that doesn't agree with us, to marry? We set ourself up for failure in fidelity while holding ourselves back from what we were meant for. There is no good reason to wait until such an age to marry. One will always have bills to pay, whether for school or mortgage. One will always be busy, whether with studies or their career. Maturity does come with time, but what is mature enough for marriage? One mustn't forget that marriage is a pursuit of Christ, and with that a great deal of maturity will be had in a more rapid manner than otherwise, provided that it is Biblical.

Our bodies are ready for a marriage relationship at a relatively young age, in our young teens. i wouldn't think that a good time to marry, but late teens to very early twenties would, when maturity is set in place. Again, why wait until fifteen years after one's body is mature for sexual relations when we obviously don't want to. The society around us is drinking deep of premarital sex, we are exposed to it's lies day in and day out. We are fools to allow this to tempt us, to wait without reason.

There is also the aspect of child bearing. A woman's body is most able to birth when young, the older the more prone her children will be to disease. Conception will be easier at a young age, as will be parenting. Imagine having children at age 30+.
That leaves one with a 10 year old child at 40+. 10 yearolds are still able to cause a good deal of trouble, as are teens. It would be ideal to be able to keep up with your children, not panting trying to climb the stairs.

i find it very frustrating that leaders in the church push for couples to wait to marry. There is no good reason. There are all kinds of silly walls one can build for oneself, but that doesn't mean they are valid objects stopping them. If there is a will, there is a way - it may not be easy, but it will be good. And would marriage be any easier at age 30 over age 20? No.

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